Chronic Illnesses: Aiming For Acceptance

We’ve all learned about the Five Stages of Grief.  (Kubler-Ross, 1969)  I recently read an article

how this works with chronic pain, but now I can’t find the article again.  I apologize to the author.

If you know the author, please let me know and I will give them credit for and link to their article.

The author was saying how when we get chronic illness, we grieve.  Honestly, I’ve read this

type of thing before.  When we grieve over any loss in our lives, we usually follow this 5-step

pattern of grieving.  It’s how we as humans cope with loss: denial, anger, bargaining, depression,


I know that when I learned of my Ehlers Danlos diagnosis, I went through these stages and

came to accept the illness that I would have to live with forever.  Accepting this awful and

degenerative illness was not easy, but I had no other choice.

Then came the other diagnosis’s, such as Mast Cell disorder. And, then there were all the hopes being

dashed when medicines didn’t perform as expected.  The realization that the 5 Stages of Grief can begin

once more is overwhelming.  I can’t even tell what stage I’m in, because I’m so tired.  One medicine

makes me dumb and my pain medicines aren’t doing enough.  Regression is the word of the day to

describe my condition.  Headaches daily keep me trapped at home.

Many with chronic illness are like me.  We have more than one illness.  Not only is this hard to

balance with medicines, doctors appointments, feeling much worse, etc…..but, mentally there are

more issues to deal with.  There are more fears: we have different doctors giving us differing

opinions,  medicines that may interact or taking too many medicines, so many symptoms that we

feel overwhelmed, and we have a hard time accepting the multiple diseases/disorders.

If you know someone who is living with one or more types of chronic illness, give them a smile and

say a prayer for them.  They don’t want your pity, but would love to know that you care.  Thanks 🙂

4 thoughts on “Chronic Illnesses: Aiming For Acceptance”

  1. Praying for you, Lisa, and sending you a big smile 🙂 I hope you will have a good day soon. Do you think the change of seasons affects you negatively – temperature and pressure swings?

    If you are able to watch the livestream of our church services when you're unable to attend, the recent problems with the sound have been corrected now, thankfully. I usually like to go back to the archive and listen to our choir song and see how it sounds, plus sometimes I just love the song and want to hear (and sing) it one more time!

    I do so hope the Lord will encourage you in some special way this weekend!

    I have a few more things to tell you, I'll PM those thoughts.

    ~Mary L.


  2. I've read that season changes, weather changes, etc do cause problems for EDS patients. I know weather changes do with migraines. Have the weather changes been bothering you?
    Thank you for your kind words, Mary! I appreciate the prayers and 🙂 God bless!


  3. Sorry you have to deal with chronic illness. Medical appointments add a lot of stress! I hope the feeling of being overwhelmed will pass soon and you will find a comfortable way to live with it.


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