I’m in shock! Yesterday, my husband got a call with his biopsy report. The doctor told him that he definitely has prostate cancer and that it seems to be aggressive. He believes that the cancer is in the surrounding tissues. He’ll undergo a bone scan on Tuesday to see if cancer has spread there. Then, he’ll be told about what treatments are available.
We had to tell our adult children, and we could tell that they were very upset. We were all in a state of shock. The CT scan hadn’t shown any tumors outside of the prostate, so we were feeling more hopeful. There are always more tests when a diagnosis is found, as they hope to rule out spread, etc. I feel so let down. He feels it so much more, because the last conversation with the doctor seemed more optimistic. But, you can’t argue with biopsies.
When I listened to the conversation on speaker phone, my stomach felt sick. Over the next hour or so, I had an allergic reaction. With MCAS, even emotional highs and lows can cause me to react. I began to itch everywhere and have a terrible stomach ache. That’s when I took a Benadryl, which started working in about 25 minutes. I woke up in pain and itching this morning. So, another Benadryl for me!
As I talked to my husband, I told him how important it was for him to work on emotional well-being as he needs to fight cancer with all of his mind, body, and spirit. We’re going to add as many helpful and joy-bringing activities to his schedule as we can. This will also help me deal with the horrible stress and worry. We are already praying a lot together.
Now, I hope to lead him in ways to experience relaxation, calmness, and joy. Since we are both facing cancer and other diseases, it’s more important than ever to do our part so that our bodies have less stress. Illness brings stress and that stress can make us more likely to give up. Whether we watch the sun set, get massages, watch a funny movie, or just go to see something beautiful, we can increase our calmness and joy.
What types of self-care help you most? I love nature, but being out during the tree-blooming season causes me to: cough, itch, have runny nose, and have tearing eyes. You would think that taking Cromolyn Sodium, 2 Zyrtec, Singulair, Benadryl, and 2 nasal sprays that my allergies would be controlled. But, my tree pollen allergy must be very strong.
I hope that you all have a very healthy and happy Easter! We will celebrate our Risen Savior by the guys attending church services and I’ll watch online. Then, I’m planning a very easy meal: Chicken in the oven, rice, salad, frozen rolls, and frozen pie. It’s not elaborate, but it will taste great. God bless.
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Disclaimer: I’m not a medical expert. This post contains my opinions and experiences and is not meant to be taken as medical advice. If you have a medical concern, please consult your personal physician.